January 2008
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somebody i know died
so no posts today; in his honor. he was 31 and accidentally overdosed on his meds. anti anxiety. we spoke last week. we weren’t friends. just associates, but i am trying to imprint the irrelevant babble we shared on my brain so that he still kind of exists. on january 1st, j had no idea that before february 1st he would be dead. ;-( live every day as if it were your last because it could be....
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ashlee simpson? so sue me...
my friend patrick thinks it’s hilarious that i like ashlee simpson. now, while i have never admitted to liking a.s., there are two of her songs that are on my playlist— even though i have made fun of her lip syncing scandal in one of my films. so what?!?! check out the lyrics… ;-) “you’re the one who looks right through me, now you’re acting like you knew me,...
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wishing you many rejections
every no brings you closer to a yes! and while you’re at it, with your fine self, here’s my podcast on self sabotage. 29 minutos. MP3 File
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no pants day
darn… we missed it! LOL check this out. i kinda like their moxie, cajones, balls, um… shorts… The 7th Annual Improv Everywhere event includes hundreds of people riding the subway with no pants on. According to IE’s initial report, the event drew 900 participants. Are you stuck? Boxed in to what people should and shouldn’t do? How can you move outta your normal groove...
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recovering from the weekend?
judging from your emails you definitely need to— and so do i!! lol meanwhile, check this out…
A Gift: Love
by Abiola
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“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving better or happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness.” - Mother Teresa
Read aloud three times a day: upon rising, at midday, and before retiring at night for...
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single bingo... play with me... ;-D
what? the single shuffle is the game… i didn’t really create it— i just put it into a board!! we’re playing it anyway, right? you get the rules when my girlfriends and i figure them out! (and no i didn’t realize i had that much deodorant or boobies going on, fyi!!) *lol* any suggestions? it is a bag o’fun, i gotta say. how many qualities should “the...
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get your dareitude together...
have i told you about dareology and dareitude yet? HEY— What’s your dareitude?
Can a fiction book be used as motivation? I hope so! Dareitude is about having the courage to live the most joyful life possible. Get the DARE factor and DARE to get a life.
In Dare Maya found out that sometimes a good girl has to become a bad girl to reclaim her personal power. After all, life is meant to...
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ancient chinese secret
“My barn having burned to the ground, now I can see the moon.” love that… check out my interview with center stage mag by up and coming writer kamah alicia scott, where i talk about what this saying has meant to me… xoxo
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what the buck? why are you so $%#^&^* happy?!
Do you know who Michael Buckley is? He is an entertainment news blogger and youtube supernova— and usually hilarious. I totally respect and love this clip of him talking about why and how he is always happy. I really relate to this because people always ask me the same that they always ask him— Why are you so damned happy?! LOL - Whoo Hoo… Personal power… He’s...
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forbes presents the celebrity 100
Good to see that there was some positive energy coming out of Hollywood this past year! Sheesh… The good stuff: It was a year of conquest in Hollywood. The worldwide box office soared to a record $25.8 billion, buoyed by global blockbusters like Disney’s Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest and Sony’s Da Vinci Code. Madonna reclaimed her title as the mightiest force...
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senator barack obama does letterman's top 10
“Three words. Vice President Oprah!” Yeah!!! ;-)
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for the grown who wannabe sexy
CHARLOTTE BURLEY’s icandy dvd might make a great valentine’s day gift! (but the again, so would secret phenom venus hottentot’s afrodite superstar— lol! ) Fighting AIDS is also one of the main reasons Charlotte (BETJ’s The Turn On) created icandyDVD. Having two close male gay friends that are infected with this cruel disease hit close to home. Therefore every...
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am i smarter than a 5th grader?
apparently not, because the new rocky, er, rambo movie had me thoroughly confused. worse yet, not the movie itself, but, um, is this a re-release, a new movie or what? the absence of numbers i.e. rambo 1, 2, etc has me totally confused and i’m like huh, rambo? staring at the poster like i’m 4 years old again. ok, anyway— check out the clip below. it is the very inspirational...
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egads
“i feel like the pope at a sex party!” — Designer Michael Kors on Bravo’s Project Runway wow! the fabulous michael kors knows how i felt on the set of my film afrodite superstar!!! lol xo, a.
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VDay, Eve Ensler & V to the 10th
It’s the 10th anniversary of V-Day and The Vagina Monologues and Super Goddess Eve Ensler is transforming the New Orleans Super Dome into a dome of love. Contact vday.org to help.
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hilary clinton, bill clinton and barack obama
if i hear another person say that bill clinton was america’s first black president i am going to scream. bill i love you, but this is a ridiculous statement. sorry ms. toni morrison, my absolute idol, but i disagree with you on this statement. either that or it was taken out of context. anyway, check this out. hilarious!!! it’s a riff from mad tv on rhianna’s umbrella video with...
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revolutionary sista
HEY! i am in non- stop pro- duction on my up- coming daily online talk show planetAbiola and yesterday i shot some great segments with my sister damali abrams in her funky harlem hive. we discussed the beauty myth, gentrification, nutrition, the prison industrial complex and other important issues including celebs like don imus, isaiah washington, michael richards and mel gibson coming WAY out...
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be the dream
happy mlk day. i listened to this speech and it was so poignant and powerful. i remember memorizing it in school actually, and this time i was struck by the concept of living in exile in your own country. many of us are living in exile in our own skin. let’s think about how we can live a more present existence. dr. martin luther king junior is one of my favorite outlaws, and when i think...
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the role denzel washington should have won the...
“innocence is a highly overrated commodity.” -ruben “hurricane” carter
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abiola interviewed by the african ameican book...
check it out. c’est moi— talking about dare, the storyline etc… fun!
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mis-matched in manhattan
TEAM ABIOLA STAND UP!!! lol Thanks so much for all of your cute letters, love and proposals!!! Recently, I had the supreme pleasure of being a part of my friend Matt Titus’ new show Matched in Manhattan along with his lovely wife Tamsin. The show never aired but went straight to lifetime tv.com. Matt and Tamsin are very cool people and even named me an It Girl, for their supercool magazine...
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pollyanna talk or keepin' it real?
is your glass half full or half empty? does every cloud really have a silver lining or is that just b.s.? good ole al einstein said that the most important decision we will ever make is whether we live in a hostile universe or a friendly universe. so many of us automatically pick hostile universe— and it’s not hard. we or our parents grew up in circumstances maybe that make you wary....
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happiness is the new black
“Every single person on the planet and every single Consciousness in the Universe has the same experience of being one place and having a desire to be another. In other words, it is the promise of this eternal Universe… You’re always, always, always going to be on your way to something more—always. And when you relax and accept that, and stop beating up on yourself for not being...
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three good reasons to be single... lol
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Unsolicted Celebrity Advice: Janet Jackson
miss jackson if you’re nasty dearest janet, you are BACK. yes! i am so inspired the way that you rebounded from the last album, spit out a hit film and jumped into the studio. you are an absolute goddess that let’s nothing stand in your way. so let em talk. all pop starlet kiddees need to fall back or pick up a notebook. your new album discipline is said to be a throwback to the good...
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Unsolicited Celeb Advice: Elizabeth Berkley
the best second act ever! showgirls be damned Dear Elizabeth, You were more than slightly annoying as cool kid Jessie from Saved By The Bell but I am THRILLED about your AMAZING new venture called “Ask Jessie” — er, um… “Ask Elizabeth!!!” On your new site, adolescent girls can ask your advice about everything from body image and eating disorders to dating and...
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Steal this Blog
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wanna feel invincible?
close your eyes and listen to this positivity rampage…
get caught up with who you already are… ;D
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life imitates art...
1520 Sedgwick Avenue in the Boogie Down Bronx is widely acknowledged as the birthplace of hip hop. Now, apparently gentrification is taking hold & may take this affordable housing building “for the people” into a commercial property…. From being of the people to being of the pocket? Sounds just like what happened with the music. Is there anything you can do today t help...
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dare related fun for your procrastination pleasure
OK Cupcake,
CLICK THESE LINKS: I want you to have as much fun in the romantic and wild universe of DARE as I had writing it, so here’s where to find lyrics, the DARE-Tupac connection, and hip hop bingo, not to be confused with single bingo, of course! Here in the Dareiverse, you can also find quotes from female rappers, fun contests, my Carrie Bradshaw interview, virtual tour links, video...
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my jimmy kimmel appearance at the BET awards
hilarious!!! who’s that on the carpet with me? ky-mani marley. check out his new album— in stores now. he also has a reality show on my network called “living the life of marley.” also— that’s ken and the other guy from “american idol.”
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a great conversation: we see what we expect to...
Gigablonde said…
Hi Abiola! I just discovered you in one of those cool random yet utterly synchronistic ways that just puts a smile right on your face. Y’know those? :) Anyway, first of all, THANK YOU for your beautiful-energy-filled podcasts … I love your spirit … And second I have sort of a sad question for you. I was reading some of your old blog posts and came across...
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the ethical hustler - word...
“The meek may indeed inherit the earth at some point… but only after the bold are through with it.” - john carlton
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Unsolicted Celebrity Advice to Tony Romo: Jessica...
is she or isn’t she? someone emailed to ask me this because her dude, football playa, tony romo plays football about as well i do do when she or carrie underwood or whomever is watching. this is to me, you and tony- there is no JINX, dude. there is no luck. and while i am at it, there are no accidents. all things are in divine order. so take your life by the cajones and make it happen for...
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where self help and politics meet
“we cannot fully create effective movements for social change if individuals struggling for that change are not also self-actualized.” — bell hooks
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me with my gran thanksgiving 07
i looove this picture. my brother took it. yay! my granny heads back to guyana every winter, so it was nice to spend this time with her before she left. she told me stories about my dad as a boy. you forget that your parents were kids once, right? is there someone in your family that you can call right now to spread the love? also— family doesn’t just mean the people connected to you...
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ease into the weekend with babs streisand & louise...
of course you know who barbara streisand is, but you should totally google louise hay!! BUT if you just landed from mars and don’t know who b streisand is, you’re not invited to the blog until you go find out…. or just watch this video of affirmations and art until her voice mesmerizes you into loving yourself!!!
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Unsolicted Celebrity Advice: Serena Williams
it gets better, serena! ;-) so says maya, the heroine of my novel dare… Serena Wiliams impassioned blog about men, dating and relationships: “You just start dating a guy. He likes you, you like him. You guys want to spend every second together. When you are not with him you are talking to him on the phone. You have deep feelings for him. The feelings keep developing. They keep...
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“you remind me of my uncle. his name was tom.” — tracey morgan in the ice cube church movie (i forget the name and don’t feel the need to look it up…) hilarious!
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I Was A Teenage Feminist
Therese Schecter’s film “I Was A Teenage Feminist” is in CosmoGIRL! Win “I Was A Teenage Feminist” and read about feminism!
The February issue of CosmoGIRL! is running a story called “The F Word” about the importance of feminism to young women. Look for the little WinIt! box running with it on page 105 for the DVD giveaway. Okay - we know the story is...
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beauty do over
HOT but haven’t the girls in the the hood been doing this for years? Tapered Eye Liner 1/9/08 GET THE LOOK: Thick Nefertiti liner goes well with smoky eyes, but if you want to subtly simmer, try a gradually thinning line, like Angelina Jolie. Use a liquid liner to draw a thin rim along upper lashlines. Go over the outer half of each eye one more time, and extend slightly beyond the eye....
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dare by abiola trailer
this was fun to create.
check it out!
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thank god for granting me this moment of vanity
WUNDERBLOC MAG caught me on the street at the end of the summer. xo
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dareology - can fashion be inspirational? sure,...
Quickie Affirmations with My Chic Things Boutique
reprint
My Chic Things: What’s darelogy?
Abiola: Ahhhh. Good question. Astrology is so last week. (laughs) Everything we do reveals something about us. So attaching my dareology to your tres chic handbags was easy. You’ll be surprised to see how accurate it is! Of course, you may do like I did, and pick up a bunch of different cute, reversible...
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wanna confess something or get a rant off of your...
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the only safe affair...
“the only safe affair is between two people who want to stay in their marriages.” — one of the female characters in lucy liu’s new show *cashmere mafia* wow! is that what we’ve come to? but then again, in a weird, twisted, convoluted, post-post-post modern way, that does actually make ugly sense. i don’t endorse this of course, but if this is what you’re...
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deepak chopra tells the story of budha
do you know deepak’s work? *listen here.
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are book tours played out? hope not!
The author tour, with its accompanying readings and signings, has come to be the quintessential tool for promoting books. It is a chance for writers to charm their readers and for readers to glimpse the person behind the words. At its best, the meeting can be electric. (At worst, nobody shows up.)
But in the past five years or so, observers say the traditional author tour has been in decline:...