Abiola Abrams' TUMBLR | Author of Dare, TV Big Mouth, Passionista | Lifestyle Expert As seen on MTV's "MADE"
My lessons from Tough Love are much deeper than finding external love. I have found an amazing group of friends that I hope to know for the rest of my life. We shared a singular experience. Being on the show taught me that there is no shame in being single. It also reinforced for me that it really is all about self love. I love being single now, and look forward to enjoying that a little longer. The show also taught me that dating and love are supposed to be fun.
Much was made of my list of qualities that I seek in a partner, things like, I am seeking someone who is kind, caring, affectionate etc. Raise your hand if you’re seeking someone unkind or uncaring. We are have lists of expectations in every area of our lives, and for me, that selectivity remains. However, love cannot be quantified. Love can’t be added up or subtracted, and I left the house with full love for myself, as well as for my Tough Love sisters and for JoAnn And Steve Ward.
I live in NYC so I’ve never had a problem meeting men. Steve helped me to know how the male mind works. HOWEVER, my biggest lesson from Tough Love boot camp is that no matter what you can’t please everyone. Someone always won’t like you, so you might as well go ahead and risk being you. Be your own weird, oddball, outsider self and give the haters something to talk about! I was hyper sensitive going into the experience but my skin is definitely thicker! (giggling)
