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Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day 27! Best #Dating Advice Ever: First Date Alert! [video]
Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day 26: Bombshell Sex Advice: Make Love Like A Porn Star?! [video]
![Hey Rockstars! Join me tonight 8-9 pm EST for this fun tweet chat for Essence Magazine. xoxo [info link: http://www.essence.com/2012/01/26/twitter-party-lets-talk-about-spicing-things-up]](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lyeysaS1aS1qz7f9no1_250.jpg)
Hey Rockstars! Join me tonight 8-9 pm EST for this fun tweet chat for Essence Magazine. xoxo [info link: http://www.essence.com/2012/01/26/twitter-party-lets-talk-about-spicing-things-up]
Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day 22~ Sunday Love Advice: Make A Relationship Resume! [video]
Happy New Year, Passionate People!
I hope that you’re living juicy, my goddesses and goddess lovers.
I haven’t updated my Passionista Playbook news in a long time. Lots of goodies to share. 2012 is off and running with a bang. I’ve been chained to my desk finishing my book and writing for Yahoo Shine but I’ve also been doing TV Lifestyle Expert appearances, giving talks and other fun stuff…
It’s all about living with passion.
Recent Hot Links:
My articles and Interviews…
1) My gURL.com column with love, sex, dating and relationship advice for teens;
2) Essence.com article on “How to Turn On Your Man;”
3) Essence.com “Necessary Sex Talks” with Twanna Hines and Charli Penn;
4) DatingSite.org interviewed me on being a love, sex, dating expert;
5) My “Kiss & Tell TV” interview exclusives with Kandi Burruss, Lil Mama, Barbara Carrellas, Gabrielle Bernstein, Beverly Johnson and Anna David;
6) Digital Sisterhood’s Ananda Leakes interviewed me about my lifestyle blog;
7) Zora Magazine reviewed my hip hop theater play “Goddess City;”
8) I wrote about being Single During The Holidays for Seth Godin’s new Squidoo magazines;
9) I’m in the new trailer for the documentary “How to Lose Your Virginity;”
10) Rags & Riches Magazine interviewed me;
11) My Single in Stilettos Speech is live;
12) I’m testing book covers for The Bombshell Handbook.
Whoo Hoo!!
Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day 21: Forgiveness? Should I FORGIVE? Love & Relationships [VIDEO] Operation Rock 2012 ;-)
Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day #14! Let’s talk about adult fairytales, limiting beliefs and life blockers… [video]
Must-See: Dating Advice from Our Favorite Love Gurus
As soon as we’re old enough to be given dating advice, women are always told the same thing — there’s a right and a wrong way to land a man. Don’t ever sleep with a man on the first date, your girlfriend’s exes are off limits, and never tell the truth about how many men you’ve slept with. The list of supposed “rules” goes on and on. But, do these dating “rules” still apply? What happens when we bend them? Can’t we just throw some of them away altogether?
Happy couple Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade grace the cover of ESSENCE’s new Love issue, and inside you’ll find the answers you seek. ESSENCE Senior Writer Jeannine Amber called on some of her favorite relationship bloggers and asked them to come together for a friendly debate on the new dos and don’t of dating. It was the women vs. the men in a rare chance for both sides to say their piece.
Demetria Lucas, author of A Belle In Brooklyn, Abiola Abrams, host of Abiola’s Kiss and Tell TV, and Charli Penn, ESSENCE.com Relationships Editor and founder of Man Wife and Dog, represented for the ladies, while Until I Get Married creator Jozen Cummings, Anslem Samuel, creator of Naked with Socks On, and Damon Young, co-founded of Very Smart Bros., held things down for the fellas.
You’ll have to pick up the new issue (on stands Thursday January 12th) to find out which rules they voted should stay, or go, but here’s a sneak peek at some of the behind the scenes action and dating advice the group dished out.
Read more: http://www.essence.com/2012/01/09/must-see-dating-advice-from-our-favorite-love-gurus/#ixzz1j0W40XJT
Is your relationship heading to the next level? Or, maybe things have just been a bit underwhelming between the sheets? When you and your partner become intimate, ultimately great sex is the goal — we get that. But before you hit the lights there are a few topics the two of you should cover, together, if you want to minimize your chances of an awkward moment in bed. Knowing each other’s desires, preferences, and sexual past is key in starting things off on the right foot. Here’s some great advice from two of our favorite sexperts on how to get there.
Talk Fantasies, Fetishes, and Desires
Before you laugh, listen up. “Couples should definitely discuss fantasies and fetishes,” says Abiola Abrams, sex and relationships guru and creator of Abiola’s Passionista Playbook. “When you’re in the bed it may be too surprising to spring your furry fetish on your partner at that moment. Things like oils and lotions and potions are pretty standard. Those don’t really require discussion. But if you are a bondage queen or secret dominatrix, give your partner a heads up.”
It’s not uncommon for many men and women to feel embarrassed when the topic of pleasure toys comes up, but Twanna A. Hines, sex educator, and founder of FunkyBrownChick.com, says they can be the cure for a sex life that’s gone stale. “Toys aren’t just for tots,” she tells us. “Especially in long-term relationships, sex can begin to feel routine. From simple lotions to furry handcuffs, fun accessories help turn the heat up.”
Read more: http://www.essence.com/2012/01/09/5-sex-talks-you-and-your-partner-must-have/#.TwsFcF_i20U.twitter#ixzz1j0VVcXix
Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day 8! Bad Relationships reflect a BAD RELATIONSHIP with You! [video]
Hey Loves— Here’s Abiola’s Bombshell Academy Day #3. Operation Rock 2012!! ;-) “You deserve to be PICKY.” Watch. xoxo
Dating Advice for Single Moms from Tinzley — dating with baby fat…
How The Internet Changed My Sex Life | Audrey Magazine
I was a guest columnist for Audrey Magazine’s Fall 2011 issue. Here’s a snippet of my piece on how online dating has altered the way we choose partners:
With the array of choices online, it’s tempting to rely on search features that comb through user databases to spit out results based on age, ethnicity, religion, education and even dietary preferences. The criteria with which you can assess potential partners range from the trivial (pet ownership status) to the maddeningly obscure (foreign languages spoken). Should a romantic decision really come down to whether someone is more of a dog person or a cat person? The Internet can make dating seem like an interview process. It’s easy to get caught up in looking for the next best thing or to falsely believe that you don’t need to compromise on your vision of an ideal partner or relation- ship, because there’s always that elusive better offer.
In this day and age, what happens virtually isn’t distinct from “the real world”; it’s part of it. I think OkCupid, Grindr, and similar services can be really fantastic ways to meet people (as long as you don’t get addicted, as SO many of my friends have). I know plenty of folks who have turned online flirtations into offline relationships, but just as many who end up in unfulfilling cycles of serial dating.
The article’s not up on the magazine’s website yet, but my editor just sent the PDF to me. To read the whole thing, click here.
